Fun Facts About Male Orgasms

Orgasms are one of our favorite topics around these parts. Whether we’re sharing flirty sex tips to get you there with a partner or gossiping about the latest toy that will give you a hand during solo play, dishing about our OH! moments is a blast. But what about the male orgasm?

 

Aren’t male orgasms pretty straight forward? I mean, doesn’t it usually go: stimulation for a little while and then BOOM?

Orgasms can be a bit of a mystery. Even when someone thinks they know everything there is…O O O OH there’s more! Orgasm results in a muscular contraction, increased heart rate and blood pressure, and typically result in intense pleasure. But you all knew that! As if males weren’t tricky enough to figure out, well so is their process of sexual pleasure.  

Fair enough! Let’s start with the basics. Are some spots on a man’s penis (or other areas!) more sensitive than others? What are some good places to pay attention to when you’d like to give your man some good loving?

There are three ultra sensitive spots that can result in intense sexual pleasure. Most men have two very sensitive spots: 1. the frenulum (just underneath the head or “mushroom tip, as some like to call it); 2. the perineum (patch of skin between the testicles and the anus); and 3. the prostate gland (which can be stimulated externally by massaging the perineum or internally by inserting a finger or accessory in to the anus).

How long does a guy’s orgasm last?

Orgasms do NOT last for 10 minutes. The typical male orgasm will last anywhere between 5 and 22 seconds of pure pleasure and wonderfulness. 

And do guys really fake it?

Men fake orgasms too! Most people think it is just women that fake orgasms, but estimates are as high as 30% of young adult males have faked orgasms at one time or another. Simply faking an orgasm does not mean that they did not enjoy the sexual activity, as sexual pleasure can be plenty enjoyable even when it does not result in an orgasm. 

But what about the, um, after product. Don’t guys need to ejaculate to orgasm?

Men can have an orgasm without ejaculating. Yes, it’s true—not all men ejaculate with orgasm! We tend to think of the male orgasm as ejaculating or “cumming,” however men can have an orgasm without emitting any fluid. And guess what? It can feel just as great!

How long do guys need to “rest” after orgasm before starting another hooking up session?

Most men need time to “recharge” after orgasm and ejaculation. After an orgasm, most males are not able to have another orgasm for a period of time even with continued stimulation. That time frame can be anywhere from minutes to hours or even a day. For younger men this time period is typically much shorter, however the amount of time varies between men. 

So does that mean they can’t have multiple orgasms?

Men can be multiorgasmic! Some few men can have multiple orgasms during the same sexual encounter. However, this is not common and there are a few things you should know about them. First, as mentioned in the previous point, some men may take less time between ejaculations than others. So for those whose refractory period is shorter, it may appear that they are having multiple orgasms. Secondly, as mentioned before, some men can have orgasms without ejaculating. It is the ejaculation process that requires time between them. So, if a man has an orgasm without ejaculating, then he could potentially have a second or third orgasm with or without ejaculation. Remember, even though multiple male orgasms is possible, it is not all that common and sexual activity can be plenty enjoyable and satisfying with just one orgasm or even none.

Things You Should Never Say To A Woman

Women have a tendency of freaking out. Often at you for no rhyme or reason.You say something that you consider totally innocent, or even downright nice, only to find that you've offended or annoyed her.

Men face many problems when it comes to woman. Some are basic and instinctive:

Being attracted to women: Not going to go away. But here's a problem you can solve:

Effective communication: You need to know the phrases that, once introduced to her volatile atmosphere, will result in explosion (or quiet contempt--no picnic either). You need to strike these from your vocabulary.

Xpert warning: Some of these absolute no-no words and phrases seem so incredibly harmless, you may think we're kidding. We're not.

Forbidden Phrase #1: "Relax."

It might seem logical to you to tell a woman who's freaking out to relax. And if "logical" meant the same thing as "stupidest idea ever," you'd be correct. Understand, a woman screaming and crying on in anger or frustration or panic thinks that her response is 100 percent appropriate. If the inciting situation has anything to do with you, she feels she has a responsibility to freak out extra to compensate for your maddening calm.
So when you tell her to relax, you're implying that your response--i.e., nothing--is correct. You're denying that there's a reason to be upset. You're telling her she's crazy. Women may sometimes feel crazy and joke about it, but anything smacking of accusations of being crazy will be far from soothing.

Xperts Say… 

"I'm just as upset about this as you are. Let's deal with it together." This way she knows you're totally sympathetic. This should help her to...Gawd...relax.

Forbidden Phrase #2: "I love you."(During a fight)

In movies, "I love you" is usually employed by men during I-love-you–appropriate situations--lovemaking, walks on the beach, airport reunions. In real life, a woman hears "I love you" most often at that point in a fight when she desperately wants to get to the heart of the issue, and when you desperately want to stop this nonsense and watch Alias--which you don't normally even watch.
When you come home shirtless from a bachelor party or forget our birthdays and stand there in the face of our rage and crushing disappointment, do you really believe that merely stating the powerful existence of your love is going to make everything okay? Because it's not.

Xperts Say . . .

1. "[Insert detailed explanation of what you did and why you did it.]"

2. "It won't happen again."

3. "I love you." (It's okay at the end of the apology, just not at the beginning.)

And when you go to a bachelor party, take along an extra shirt.

Forbidden Phrase #3: "It's up to you."

(a.k.a. "Whatever you want to do is fine with me.")

Relationships are full of decisions. You decide where to eat, where to go on vacation, where to send your child to preschool. Most men wouldn't dream of looking at their wife or girlfriend and saying, "You know what? I just don't care." They would, however, say, "It's up to you." And find themselves in a world of hurt they never saw coming.

Men think of decision-making as work without pay. For women, it's like window-shopping for life's possibilities, and we want you to help us shop. So when you say, "It's up to you," we feel abandoned.

Xperts Say . . . 

"I could definitely do A or B, but I'm not crazy about C. What are you thinking?" This shows you're listening, suggests you care, and gets you out of deciding.

Forbidden Phrase #4: "You knew I was this way when you married me."

Well, the truth is that we didn't. Or we knew deep down, but we were so busy enjoying our fantasy of you that we chose to ignore what was really there. It's not your fault. It's just that when we were little, we spent so much time daydreaming about having the perfect life. Now that we're actually in grown-up life, we can't turn off our daydreaming switch.

Telling a woman, "You knew I was this way when you married me" is like saying the way your life is right now is the way it's going to be forever and ever. And that may well be true--in many wonderful and not-so-wonderful ways. But if she were to accept that, a little part of her would die.

Xperts Say . . . 

"It frustrates me, too--and I'm working on it." It's a lie. That's okay.

Forbidden Phrase #5: (Nothing)

At times, you may be afraid of saying the wrong thing. You may think, If I just keep my mouth shut, I'll be okay. Well, no. Imagine you're pitching in a baseball game in which there is no hitter, not even a catcher. You would not enjoy that. Imagine yourself, head hanging, going to retrieve the ball yourself and, once again, throwing it to no one. That's how we feel when you don't talk to us.

Xperts Say . . . 

Anything. Throw the ball back. Throw it badly. Even risk throwing a wild pitch and letting her take an extra base. But keep your head in the game.

THE MAGIC WORDS

3 instant get-out-of-jail-free cards.
When a woman wants to kill you, you have one thing going for you: Deep down, a tiny part of her wants you to make her not do it. She just might put down the apple slicer if you say one of the following sentences.

"Just tell me everything."

I don't think a man has ever actually uttered this statement, so make history. Here's the thing: Our most violent anger is often the result of anticipating being forced to shut up. So once we're told we can give our entire, endless account--no rushing or defending ourselves--we cool off. Side benefit: We also get a little intimidated. We think, Is this part important or interesting or relevant? We edit ourselves.

"You are just so beautiful."

The trick: You must say it as if it's just occurring to you at the moment, as if her pulchritude were a rainbow suddenly in your path, the stunningness of which has left you incapacitated, emotionally stunted, but in a good way.
Say it as if you can remember little else--certainly not whatever irksome matter you were just discussing. Works well as an alternative to "I love you"-- but, the same way butter makes anything taste better, it's all-purpose.

"Sorry. It was all my fault."

So classic. So hard to say. Because it's never all your fault, of course--and it's a very rare case in which she shouldn't also say she's sorry. Everyone likes to save face, especially men. But truly, there is nothing hotter to a woman than a man who's willing to admit he was wrong because he just loves her so damn much.
You might feel like you're losing her respect, but unless you're always the one to apologize (which means you have a crazy lady on your hands), trust me, you're gaining it.